Its shared hosting, so it's a little weird. I've gotten through a couple stumbling blocks.
-- Figuring out shell access you have to use their assigned username and server name rather than root and ip
-- Even though the server is running php 7.3 the command line is default accessing php 4. something so you have to specify php7.3-cli before commands that run php (like as grav's cli)
I'm stuck again on a generic server error 500 and I'm having trouble finding the right logs. Also wondering if anyone out there has already done this and knows the typical stumbling blocks.